2014… Follow Through

I can’t say that I’m proud of myself for not blogging in over a year *insert embarrassed face*. So, let’s chalk it up to me “finding myself”… whatever that means.  One of my goals for 2014, however is to “Get in the habit of completing things”.

One of the many things that I discovered about myself while I was “finding myself” is that I lack follow through. I initially blamed this on that fact that I’m a Pisces, lol. Of course, the first thing I did was find something/one to blame my lack of follow thru on. Typical Pisces behavior… If only I can get my little fish to swim in the same direction, smh. I digress.

But now that I know this about myself, I’ve decided to “finish” the things that I’ve started before moving on to something new. This, I imagine, may be harder than it sounds. So, I’m asking you all to hold me accountable. Which brings me to this blog post. This blog is one of the things that I need to follow thru with. So guess who’s bis-ack?!?!?!

I plan to document my hair journey, my art, the continued process of “getting my life” aka finding myself, amongst my many other moments of randomness.

And in the spirit “Following Through” join me in this new chapter of becoming a Professional Natural Hair Stylist.


Curly Etiquette

I stumble across this amaz-balls video that  shares the do’s and don’t of approaching natural hair for the “unnaturals”. Enjoy!


source: http://www.acurlsbf.com/

Yard Sale!!!


One of my dearest and I are having a yard sale!! This is the first of many to come and we would love your support. If you happen to be in the Bowie/Mitchellville area on Saturday, June 16th, or if not, make your way over to check us out!

Where: Nemo Dr, Bowie MD (off Mitchellville Rd… very close to Bowie Town Center)

When: Saturday, June 16th, 2012

Time: 8am-noon

We will be selling women’s fashion (clothes, accessories, jewelry, etc) and household items. Hope to see you this Saturday!

Also follow us on twitter for minute-to-minute updates!

@TimmyCay & @4EverAshe


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Hair Cocktail Anyone?


I’ve decided to embark on a hair growth challenge for the next six months. I’m over all things short hair. I’ve had short hair for the past God knows how long. Enough is enough. I’m ready for the ultimate whip action. I’m sure you don’t believe me, but that’s fine, just don’t be mad when my ish is flowing down my back like the black curly version of Rapunzel.

Many of you know that in the past, I would cut my hair at the drop of a dime. Well, I’ve turned over a new leaf. I know, I know…  you’ve heard it all before. I know me better than you think, so there’s no need for a side-eye, lol. I’m serious this time. Black girls all over the world are growing long, beautiful, healthy hair, and I want to be one of them.  My problem in the past was that I got side tracked too easily and somewhere in the back of my mind there was a memo (typed and posted) that my hair grew like weeds—so patience wasn’t needed. Yeah…. UBER FAIL!

Now that I’ve come to the realization that patience and proper care are needed, I can move past this. Here is what I’m planning to do. I’ve tried all of the below methods in the past, but only as an experiment, and not as a consistent routine so I know that it works.

I’ve provided the sources to each method I intend to use during the next six months.  I would like to send a special s/o to Moptop Maven for all the research that went into coming up the Ayuverdic formulas! Your blog is truly missed! You are my hair-spiration!


Hair Cocktail ( 2-3x per week)

  • 3/4 glass of whole milk (I used chocolate coconut milk)
  • 1 raw egg
  • 1 tablespoon raw wheat germ oil
  • 2 tablespoons raw wheat germ
  • *for flavor, add a piece of fruit in season*

This drink will serve as my complete breakfast. And believe it or not consuming a raw egg will not give you semolina poisoning. It’s the unclean eggshell that will; simply rinse the shell with some apple cider vinegar.



Ayuverdic Hair Care Routing

I pre-poo with ghee, pumpkin seed oil, and coconut oil (use your fav oils).

Ayurvedic  Cleanse Mix (once weekly)

  • 2 tablespoons Alma
  • 2 tablespoons Shikakai
  • 1 tablespoon Neem Powder

Mix all ingredients together with enough water to make a thick paste. Section your hair, starting at the root, applying down hair shaft. Massage scalp in circular motions and cover with plastic cap. Allow mixture to sit for 10-15 minutes.

Follow with ½ cup Apple Cider Vinegar and 1 cup water rinse.


Ayurvedic Conditioner Mix (once weekly)

  • 4 tablespoons Hibiscus Petal Powder
  • 4 tablespoons Marshmallow Root Powder
  • 3 tablespoons Amla Powder


Mix all ingredients together with enough water to make a thick paste. Section your hair, applying the mixture starting at the scalp, and working your way down the hair shaft. Cover with a plastic cap and allow mixture to sit for 45 minutes-1 hour. 



I will be using Salerm 21 b5 silk protein leave-in conditioner, and coconut oil to “grease” and style my tresses. For twist-out/braid-out maintenance, I will be using a vegetable glycerin water mix to re-twist or re-braid my hair at night.

When I get over not wanting to blog a picture of myself, I’ll show the progress of my growth. My hair goal is bra strap length hair (BSL). Wish me luck *sigh.* I know it may not happen in six months but I hope to be there by summer of 2013!



Make-up with the girls…

A few weeks back I stumbled across an amaza-balls blog, “Meek N Mild”. This blog is authored by a 21 years old Shirley Eniang from London, England. She has a love for all things fashion, make-up, and starbucks *twinzies*… j/k.

In an attempt to simply my life, I’ve decided to find an everyday make-up look. After visiting Shirley’s blog almost daily *embarrassed face*, I discovered that she has a tutorial for just what I was looking for, her Everyday Face. #winning. Say hello to my everyday Cat-Eye *meow*.


To achieve this look Shirley uses:

MAC MatchMaster Foundation, 7.0
MAC Studio Finish Concealer, NC45
MAC Studio Careblend Powder, Medium Deep
TopShop Makeup Blush in ‘Pop’
Laura Mercier Creme Eyeshadow in ‘Rose Gold’
L’Oreal Superliner
Maybelline Colossal Mascara (+ Shu Uemura Lash Curlers)
L.A. Colors Lipliner in ‘Sienna’
MAC Lipstick in ‘Shy Girl’
TopShop Makeup Gloss in ‘Laid Back’

After trying this look,  I decided to share the wealth with my girls. We had a tea and make-up so to speak, it was more like mimosas and carry-out but hey tomato tomato.  We used the below tutorials to achieve these looks.

Before & After


Winged Eye Liner

Everyday Face

We had sooo much fun! Thanks Shirley’s for sharing your “Everyday Face”!!!!

Check out Shirley’s  blog, tumblr, and youtube channel here.

In a desert but not deserted…

“The Lord had to take me to the desert, but He assured me through His Word that there was water there. He told me, ‘Your digging will strengthen your spiritual muscles. The gain will be worth the pain for I will use you to show others how to find this Living Water’ ” ~Dr. Millicent Hunter

For those of you out there going thru spiritual warfare, check out “Don’t Die in the Winter: Your Season is Coming” by Dr. Millicent Hunter. She is actually preaching this Wednesday at Reid Temple for their “Miracle Month of May” Bible Studies. I’ve seen her preach at a women’s conference that Reid had last year and she is a phenomenal preacher. If you can’t make it to Reid, definitely buy the book!

I am……

“He didn’t erase my future because of my past”. Don’t we serve an awesome God! I was listening to “Good & Bad” by JMoss and these words, as simply as they seem, struck me to my core. I can honestly say as a silly, happy–go-lucky, overly optimist person that I am, I never looked at things this way. Think of all the times you put yourself in places, social settings, activities, and situations that you know were against God’s will. But in spite of your rebellion and sin, God still blessed you.

Unbeknownst to many of you I’ve been going through a pretty tuff season. I’ve never gone thru anything quite like this, and just when it seems like things are at there worst, something else happens.  I actually started this blog to document my journey to victory. But instead, I’ve used it as a distraction or a mask to conceal what I’m going through. I am in no way attempted to live my life on the net… but I’m trying to use this as a creative outlet to let others know that they are not alone.

As of lately, there are lots of good things happening for many of my friends and family. Now while I am sincerely happy for them, I wonder when my time will come… when will this season be over?

It seems like the devil knows exactly when to push my button and present me with temptation.  He’s mastered the skill of using those closest to me to say or do something that magnifies my situation to exponential proportions. Sounds familiar? But there comes a time when enough is enough and you stop feeling sorry for yourself and get tired of going thru.  Well, I’m tired of the devil’s tricks and schemes! I’m tired of not feeling worthy and defeated. I’m tired of being frustrated, and feeling ashamed.

In spite of everything that I’ve been through, I’m grateful that God has kept me. I’m grateful for His love, His grace, His mercy and His favor. I know in my heart that this is not in my control and no matter how I try to change, fix, or mend my situation, there is a reason for this season of my life and it won’t be over until God says its over. If you know anything about me, you know that I have control issues and I’m moderately to severely stubborn, so this has been a HARD pill to swallow. Thank God that He knows me better than I know myself…Although my eyes aren’t open to what God is doing for me, I know that He is working it out for me.

To be honest, the reason why I feel like I’m not worthy of God’s goodness is because I’m not…but He loves me so much, He gave His only begotten Son for the redemption of my sins, and as a result, there is nothing I can do that can discard the love of Jesus.

“…neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord”

~Romans 8:39

So instead of sulking in self-pity, failure, regret, and disappointment, I’m choosing to reflect on how God has shown me favor.  I will rejoice in the blessing and victories of my friends and families as if they are my own. I am going to start declaring, “I am …” like Donald Lawrence, sings in the “I am Factor”.

“Confess I AM to turn sickness to health,
Confess I AM to turn lack into wealth The heavens respond,
The universe obeys when you say I AM, I AM what you decree must come your way Confess I AM that I AM that I AM”

While I make my prophetic confessions, continue to pray for me and I will continue to pray for you because prayers of the righteous availith much! I am because God is!!!!  Let the church say Amen.

The “I Am” Factor lyrics and music video provided by SongLyrics.com

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What do your clothes say about you?

I stumbled across this article via twitter and deemed it to be “share-worthy”

Learn Vest at “You Beauty: The Science of a Beautiful You” writes

Your style says a lot about you.

What you wear can inform passersby of your type of employment, as well as your emotions, ambitions and spending habits.

And now it’s even launched a whole new type of psychology.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Jennifer Baumgartner literally wrote the book on this phenomenon, which she calls the “psychology of dress.” In “You Are What You Wear: What Your Clothes Reveal About You,” she explains not only how psychology determines our clothing choices, but how to overcome key psychological issues your wardrobe might be bringing to light in your everyday life, or even at work.

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“Shopping and spending behaviors often come from internal motivations such as emotions, experiences and culture,” says Dr. Baumgartner. “You look at shopping or storing behaviors, even putting together outfits, and people think of it as fluff. But any behavior is rooted in something deeper. I look at the deeper meaning of choices, just like I would in therapy.”

We spoke with her to figure out why clothes are so revealing (of our personalities, that is), what messages they’re sending and how you can use your wardrobe to change how others perceive you—and even how you think about yourself.

How We Use Clothing As An Aid, And Weapon

Americans rely on clothing as an economic and social indicator because there aren’t official marks of rank such as a caste system or aristocracy, says Dr. Baumgartner.

“When you don’t have a specific system, people come up with their own,” she explains. It’s what “helps you figure out where you fit in. Especially now, with the economy, with people losing status, maintaining a sense of who we are becomes even more important. Our clothes help place us where we think we want to be. ”

She cites the Real Housewives TV series as an example: “Look at the way they focus on money. When they fight, they use logos and designers as a way to put each other down. They’re using clothes and accessories both as a tool to know where they fit in and as a weapon against others.”

Read the full article here