Interview Hair?

What is interview hair? That’s an easy question for women with naturally straight hair but for my fellow naturals, I honestly don’t know. There isn’t a rule book… or is there? Did our natural grandmothers and great grandmothers forget to pass the memo? I’ve been pondering this as of lately…

We are at a critical period in the natural hair revolution, which I like to call it, where natural hair is showing up every and anywhere. Quite a few naturals started their journey while happily or unhappily employed or even while  still in school, so the thought of interview hair never occurred.  But with the current unemployment rate, and the desire to achieve more, this is our new reality.

Natural hair is more accepted now then it was a few years ago, FACT!. This is apparent in the media, in the recent evolutions of blog/vblog communities, and also in the work place. There are more products dedication to nurturing your natural tresses than I’ve ever seen in my precious twenty something years of life. But no one has coined the standard for what natural  “professional” hair looks like.

When asked, I’ve heard just keep your hair neat. But let’s face, there’s nothing neat about natural hair.  There maybe a few exceptions to the rule, but seriously, think about it. How many times have you heard “embrace your messy hair” when starting out in your natural journey? How often do you combat frizzy big puffy hair? And don’t get me started on using combs, *Jesus wept*.

I’ve seen it time and time again, naturals confirming to what they think is acceptable in a professional setting and it saddens my heart. An occasional weave or press is ok, but don’t press or weave it up because you don’t think your hair, the hair God gave you, isn’t good enough. God didn’t make no mistake when He made you, so put down the pressing comb, cancel that hair appointment, and take of that wig off because we are going to make this work! Stop inconveniencing your hair for the convenience of others that don’t count because you are ultimately damaging your hair to appease to the “ideals” of a movement that was designed to oppress you *message*

Changing they way you view yourself, will help change the way others view you.

I wouldn’t say it if I didn’t believe it.  It’s time to embrace you and all your wonderful slender starting with your beautiful curls! Why is it that you think you won’t be taken seriously with your natural hair?  Is it that you don’t think you are pretty enough without your Indian Remy? Do you think your head is too big or ill shaped? Do you think your curls look too nappy or your hair isn’t long enough? What’s your excuse? I’ve heard it all before. Once your done with that nonsense, take a hand mirror and take a moment to list at least 10 reasons why you should embrace it. Go to a private room and look in the mirror. Take a real look at yourself with your natural hair and list 2 positive reasons for every one negative reason why you haven’t embraced your curls.  Don’t be scared, it will only be you the mirror, your curls, and God.

When you’re done, start to explore different styles and products that are suitable for your hair texture. Please DO NOT…. I repeat DO NOT play the comparison game! What is for you, is for you! If you have 4c hair, 3a is not your life. Trust me when I tell you that that girl, the one you’ve secretly started obsessing over, with the 3a hair, wishes she had more texture so,  “do you cause everyone else is already taken”.

Excuse my tangent… it happens sometimes.

While I’m gathering my thoughts, take a gander at the below pics for options for your next interview.  And to get back to the question, “What is interview hair?” here is my answer:

Interview hair is a hair that is fresh, clean, and pulled back from your face. It is a reflection of you but now a distraction from you… get my drift. The way your wear your hair in a professional setting should give your interviewers/colleagues some insight into your character and who you are as a person, but remember its about the big picture, you are not your hair, as Indian Arie so eloquently stated, so tone is down a bite.

You know your industry better than I do, but a good rule of thumb is not to rock pink, green, or blue hair to your interview… so don’t opt for the crazy bottle of dye when you take that trip to the beauty supply…I’m just saying. Instead opt for a braid-out, twist-out, a low bun, or an updo. I hope this was helpful. I would love to hear your comments/feedback.

 

Words for thought…

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered:

“Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived

All things Turban!

I’ve been looking into rocking more turbans to conceal my “prep” hair (i.e. braids, two strand twists, and bantu knots). I prefer not to unravel my hair until it is absolutely necessary.. some call this being lazy, lol. I think of it as preserving the prep.. tomato tomato. Anyway, I can only achieve about 2 solid looks with wrapping scarves so I’ve turned to you tube for my inspiration. Check out the videos I’ve found below.

 

What are your thoughts on turbans?

Cali <3

I loved this! Please watch

Sunscreen for your hair?

I was watching Dr. Oz today and he had a dermatologist on providing hair health tips. She mentions that you should consider using sunscreen on your hair ends as a temporary sealant. I must say I gave her the sideeye at first, but as I listened to her reasoning it started to make sense. Unfortunately, I wasn’t taking notes so I don’t have her spew however I’m sure if you got to Dr. Oz’s website you can find some supporting facts *don’t judge me*.

Anyways, here are some ingredients to look for:

  • Silicone Polymers
  • Oils

Only use the cream sunscreen and apply by fingering it through your ends.

Here are some sunscreens to try:

Shea Moisture Organic Raw Chamomile  Argan Oil Baby Head-to-Toe Ointment.

(This smells absolutely AMAZAballs!!! btw)

 

Burts’s Bees Chemical Free Sun Screen

Bella Bee Sun B

All products can be found at Target and range between $10-15. I think it’s something to try if your can’t get into the salon and get your ends trimmed. I may have to try this myself… like I need another product under my skin, smh!

 

~Elle

Twist Out Maintenance

I feel like I’ve found the Holy Grail… in a sense. I found a vblog that covers the entire twist-out styling process including the pre, style, and maintenance. Check out “101 Lady T’s” youtube channel here. I was so excited I send it to two of my natural friends in the struggle. I feel like I need to share it with the masses, yes all 4 of my followers, lol. Three of which aren’t even natural. I still love you all the same.  Anyway, If you know of anyone that is transitioning, or is a curly haired vet, it’s worth a share.

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

 

Please come back and let me know about your twist out!

~Elle

Hiatus

I’ve been “busy” lately and haven’t been able to make any new post.  I have seen some pretty amazing stuff that I can’t wait to share.  Stay tuned because I will be sharing shortly… no I mean like in the next few minutes so don’t move!

~Elle

Relaxers linked to Uterine Fibriods and Early Puberity

Imagine my surprise when I stumbled across this article on Madame Noire‘s blog.

A new study in the American Journal of Epidemiology definitely adds a point to the #TeamNatural tally with a published paper from researchers at Boston University linking hair relaxers to uterine fibroid tumors in women and early puberty in young girls.

Led by Lauren Wise of Boston University’s Slone Epidemiology Center, scientists followed more than 23,000 pre-menopausal Black American women from 1997 to 2009 and found that the two- to three-times higher rate of fibroids among black women may be linked to chemical exposure through scalp lesions and burns resulting from relaxers.

Women who got their first menstrual period before the age of 10 were also more likely to have uterine fibroids, and early menstruation may result from hair products black girls are using, according to a separate study published in the Annals of Epidemiologylast summer. Three hundred African American, African Caribbean, Hispanic, and White women in New York City were studied. The women’s first menstrual period (menarche) varied anywhere from age 8 to age 19, but African Americans, who were more likely to use straightening and relaxers hair oils, also reached menarche earlier than other racial/ethnic groups.

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And we were all saying there’s something in the water… nah that’s something in that perm kit! I’m glad I went natural years ago!!!!! It’s a conspiracy I tell you!!!

Recipe Review: Veggie lovers soup & salad

I stumbled upon a recipe for Roasted Tomato Soup and I decided to pair it with a fun Quinoa Stir-Fry. Lately I’ve been hearing the echo’s of  “you are what you eat”… and as a result I decided to incorporate some healthier options into my diet. This meals took lets than an hour collectively, and I must say, I felt a lot better after eating this soup and salad pairing versus eating Micky D’s.

See the below for my prep and completed dishes. My family and beau loved it! Primarily because it was tasty and *drum roll please* no one got the “itis”. And since you are what you eat, this meal sounds fancier to me then being a chicken nugget.

I purchased pre-sliced mushroom but i was feeling a bit lazy, don’t judge me.

I sliced the yellow squash, egg plant, and butternut squash and placed in the over to roast. Because I’m such a fan of grill marks, i grilled the butternut squash in my George Foreman grill prior to putting it in the over.

The veggies roasted at a temp of 400 degrees for about 30 minutes.

I decided to saute the asparagus and onions instead of roasting them in the oven

I lightly seasoned the asparagus and sauted them in a medium size frying pan. I only add a small amount of butter. Once it stared caramelizing I de-glazed the pan with a tart Riesling.

For the roasted tomato soup, I coated the tomatoes in dried oregano, dried basil, dried parsley, salt, pepper, thyme leaved and olive oil.

The tomatoes roasted at 400 degrees for about. I took them out when they started to burst, that was around the 40 minute mark. The aroma was benissimo!

I allowed the tomatoes to cool for about 15 minutes before I placed them in the blender. I added a table spoon of agave nectar and the dripping from the pan into the blender with the roasted tomatoes.

I made a spinach tomato and black olive side salad. I added some croutons for crunch.

Once the veggies were finished I added them to a 2cups o cooked quinoa.

The final presentation…..Bona Betit!!

New Years Resolutions….

Is this you? Or have you decided to make a resolution to change something about yourself? In spite of the fact that I don’t entirely believe in making New Year Resolutions  per say, I do set  goals for myself ever year. No matter how silly or deep they are it is important to keep pressing for something.

If you would like to make a resolution and are having trouble here are some tips:

  1. Set realistic goals. If you don’t work out than running a marathon  should be the last thing on your list of things to accomplish this year. I’m just saying.
  2. Make a plan or road map for achieving your goals. Don’t set yourself up by blindly walking through something and then end up beating yourself up because you failed. If your a hussy, pace yourself. Instead of 3 dudes this month, cut back to just one. Find a hobby, a distraction, SOMETHING. Whatever works.
  3. Display your goals somewhere in clear sight. As the saying goes, “Out of sight out of mind”. This is for you, so why not make it easier on yourself *shrug*. Why create a vision board and store under the steps in the basement. You’re not fooling anyone but yourself.
  4. Make them flexible. You don’t know what is in store for you this year, more less this month, so leave room for edits. If you plan to lose 10 lbs by April, and you accidentally OD on a chocolate Easter bunny or some hot cross buns right before your weigh in, it’s not the end of the world.
  5. Reward yourself. Not just when you achieve your final goal, but when you see progress. It’s not punishment, so don’t treat it as such. Whether it’s a cheat day for your weight lose goals, a spa day, or that shirt you always wanted. Reward yourself!

Here’s to a happier, slimmer, employed, confident, grateful, humble you! I kinda ran out of things there…. but get in where you fit in!

Disclaimer: I’m not a specialist or anything, I’m not even a great speller, but I hope this helped. If my suggestions don’t work for you, please don’t blame me. You know you better than I do, and what works for me may not work for you. But it’s worth a try. Don’t sell yourself short due to fear of the unknown.